The official definition for the word ‘fantasy’ is as follows…
“The faculty or activity of imagining things, especially things that are impossible or improbable.”
For many women, achieving a healthy, happy marriage and the life that comes with it is, in itself, the ultimate fantasy. But unlike other fantasies, this is also a goal that many women actually strive to achieve.
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And many men, quite mistakenly, think that once the vows are exchanged, the ‘hard work’ is over.
But nothing could be further from the truth! Our mission at Male Ambition is to help men to achieve greatness in all aspects of life—but we are especially interested in seeing men achieve greater success in their relationships.
And marriage is perhaps the most complicated kind of relationship. It involves two people getting together and vowing to stay together long-term. But when it comes to sex, this can become a challenge. Humans naturally crave what they don’t have. They are enticed by what they are not currently experiencing, and daydream about the forbidden fruit on the other side.
Many people might feel like this describes men more so than women—but the truth is actually quite different. Women fantasize just as much as men do, if not even more so.
As a man and a husband, you have a tremendous amount of power over your wife’s happiness with your marriage. You are, after all, the man she married.
Are you going to satisfy her? Are you going to make her happy? Are you going to fulfill her needs, wishes, and desires?
These questions are relevant in every facet of life—including in the bedroom. And if you are a good husband who, for the most part, knows how to please your wife outside of your sexual adventures… then you are certainly going to set yourself up for more success when the time comes to get naughty together.
But knowing her fantasies could give you a definite advantage when the time comes to titillate her most sensitive and sensual senses. Women love a man who knows them intimately. Women are, to put it plainly, the most mysterious of creatures. But they love it when their man knows how to decode their inner workings and give them what they want anyway.
And that, gentlemen, brings us to your wife’s fantasies.
If you could read her mind, what would her fantasies be?
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Well, here is a look at 18 of the most commonly reported fantasies among women. Odds are good that her deepest, darkest desire can be found in one of these scenarios… and odds are very good that she has fantasized about several of them more than once!
What you choose to do with this information is up to you. But remember… as her husband, you have the potential to light her sexual world on fire with passion and pleasure. And sometimes, her fantasy-life can give you valuable insight into what she is missing (and craving) in the bedroom.
So tread carefully—but be aware that learning about your wife’s fantasies might yield valuable information that you can use to blow her mind and satisfy her beyond her wildest dreams.
Of course, you will have to get her to open up to you about them first, at least a little bit. But hey… isn’t that the fun part?
Alright… let’s talk about some fantasies!
Lesbian Sex
Let’s start with something simple. You may not realize this, but your wife probably watches a lot more lesbian porn than you give her credit for! In one statistic, 42% of women reported fantasizing about watching two women make love. But even beyond this, a lot of women also fantasize about having an actual sexual experience with another woman!
Does this mean that your wife is gay or bi? Not necessarily… though women do tend to be less category-specific when it comes to arousal than men are.
In other words, your wife doesn’t have to actually want sex with a woman to find one sexy and attractive.
But does this mean that she wouldn’t jump at the chance to make love to another lady?
Sometimes. But again, not necessarily always. For some women, fantasies are just fantasies. Women do not necessarily always wish for their fantasies to come true. Sometimes, they just like to think about it.
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Cuckolding
Cuckold porn is one of the most common male porn searches. But did you know that it is also an extremely common interest among women as well?
This fantasy basically involves the wife having sex with someone else. This other person could be another woman, though it is usually another man. Generally, in the fantasy, the husband knows about the ‘affair,’ and is even sometimes made/invited to watch. It can even have elements of humiliation woven into it (i.e. the wife might tell her husband that his dick is too small, and that she prefers the larger size of her lover’s cock, etc.).
Or, it could be about you watching her and getting off on how sexy she looks with another person!
It can also take the form of the wife having sex with someone else, then coming home to her husband to have sex with him afterwards. She might be turned on at the thought of letting him have ‘sloppy seconds,’ or might even be aroused at the idea of him using his mouth to ‘clean her up’ after the first partner.
Yes, it is indeed a common fantasy among wives—but maybe not for the reasons you would expect.
Part of this fantasy might involve being a ‘hot wife.’ You are her husband, and the two of you share a special bond. So for her, the act of having sex with someone else, while still being your wife, might make her feel powerful, beautiful, and sexual.
It might also feel good to her to imagine exposing different parts of her sexuality to you, and different partners might provide different types of stimulation to help her do that.
Or—the fantasy of being ‘watched’ by you might turn her on all by itself! Either way, there are a lot of variables—but it almost always comes down to having sex with someone else, and enjoying how this affects her bond with her husband.
Being Romanced
Women love romance… so much so that most women, at some point or another, fantasize about it. This fantasy may involve a romantic place and/or situation, and it is not surprising that a wife would fantasize about taking part in such activities with her husband!
Maybe it involves a picnic lunch on a romantic beach. Or maybe, she fantasizes about a candlelit dinner where she is ‘wined and dined’ and made to feel like the beautiful queen that she desires to be seen as.
At the root of this fantasy, of course, is a desire to be desired by her husband. If a man puts real, legitimate work and effort into wooing her, it will make her feel like she actually means a lot to him. And that is a huge turn-on!
This is one of those female fantasies that most women actually want to see come true. So husbands… don’t be afraid to break out the candles and cook her a dinner. Put on some smooth jazz, and clean up the house before she gets home. Oh… and dress up while you’re at it! If you set the mood just right, she might surprise you with how excited she gets!
Having Sex in an Unusual Location
No, men are not the only ones who fantasize about having sex in public restrooms, at work, or even in a car! Women also fantasize about this. In fact, some women even fantasize about having sex in a semi-public place, such as in a car while parked in a dark corner of a lot, or along a walking trail during a time when there aren’t many hikers around!
Quite often, this fantasy involves spontaneity and an element of surprise. All too often, marriage can become predictable and ‘regular.’ So switching it up with an unexpected, heated romp in the bathroom at the office can really liven things up!
Public sex can be a lot of fun too. Just be careful—getting caught by the police can really put a damper on the mood!
Want to really spice your relationship up? Take her into the bathroom (or if you are really daring, your parent’s bedroom!) at a family gathering and make a move on her. Show her how much you want her, and make it known that you don’t want to wait until you get home, either. This will probably surprise her and feed her need for spontaneity!
Rough Sex
A lot of women love to be dainty and feminine… but that doesn’t meant that they don’t want to be ‘manhandled’ in the bedroom sometimes as well!
Another very common fantasy among wives is a rough-sex fantasy. This could involve sex with a man who uses his strength to ‘roughly move her around’ how he likes, tie her up, spank her, or choke her (safely, of course). It could even include elements of role-play.
Maybe she fantasizes about being pushed up against the wall and ‘taken’ by sheer force. Maybe she wants to feel strong hands moving her around, putting her into positions that he wants her in. Maybe she wants to feel small and fragile in his firm, strong arms. Maybe she likes the sensual ‘sting’ of a hand spanking her or squeezing her in just the right spot.
There are a lot of variables… but you can rest assured that most women fantasize about this at least a little bit!
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